I do not know many people who admit to wanting to ruin themselves, but there are a lot of people who are doing everything possible to achieve that very objective. Certainly not see it that way, but if you look at the way they live, you can see what happens. I met a man who was very strict with his daughter. The rigor of the discipline was easier. He felt he had to control every part of your life.
And, of course, did not like any of her boyfriends. While his daughter was little she could get away with being a "full control" of the parents. The sad part of it was that thought it was a good father. Without doubt, it is the responsibility of all parents and the discipline to protect their children. But you should always be for the purpose of helping to grow to make good decisions on their own – not only to master. As in all cases, there came a time when the girl was old enough to get out from under the dominance of his father and make his own way.
When she did, she ended up marrying same kind of man her father despised. Not only that, but the resentment that had accumulated in his life kept her away from him and not even talk to him for years at the time. Now, I do not know whether consciously or not done all this out of spite, but the result was that his dad was devastated.